By: Dr. B.
Individuals experiencing intellectual or developmental disabilities often behave in ways which differ from their peers. This often manifests in the areas of communication, socialization, and behavior. This may show up as anger, anxiety, or disruptive behaviors.
During puberty these adolescents may display sexual behaviors. It’s important for parents and educators to be aware of these challenges so they may be proactive with interventions to teach appropriate behavior in these cases.
What can parents/educators do when inappropriate touching occurs?
- Act Early
When an inappropriate behavior occurs, point it out immediately. The sooner its mentioned, the sooner it can be addressed! Offer short phrases with no value attached.
“Sally, we don’t touch other people’s bodies without asking their permission.”
2. Respond in a Positive Yet Productive Manner
“I’m not angry with you. Let’s talk about what an appropriate way to touch might be. Perhaps you could ask to give a high five when you feel you need a physical connection.”
Or a simple
“No thank you, let’s focus on your work”.
Note: In cases where verbal communication is not an option, redirecting is effective. Offer an arm or hand to be held on to, hold their arm while walking, or give something else to hold on to. A student may need simple reassurance and isn’t sure how to ask.
3. Make sure everyone is on the same page
Parents, teachers, babysitters, siblings, etc., should all use a uniform approach with the individual. Find what works best and get everyone on board. Consistency is key!
It’s important to remember that human beings, by nature, want to give and receive love. Physical touch is an important part of expressing love and that doesn’t change because someone has a disability. Oftentimes, these individuals crave affection even more. Challenging behavior is often a silent cry for help. With the right support and teaching, appropriate physical touch can be learned and used to enrich the relationships in the lives of those we educate.
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